Being a GREAT parent is sometimes the most challenging work you’ll ever do…and the MOST important! Unfortunately, children do not come with an instruction booklet. Parents often feel confused when their child is exhibiting emotional or behavioral changes. You may wonder if this is just a stage or a “real” problem one should worry about. Perhaps, you are unsure about the best way to help your child and manage the impact on the whole family. My mission is to give you effective tools for positive parenting, so that you can bring out the very best in your child.
Many times I see parents try to “parent” by being the child’s friend. I believe this is a big mistake. Children and teens need clear boundaries, firm limits, open communication, and nurturing, engaged parents who express caring through their actions, not just their words or monetary rewards. I realize that many parents are busy with their professional pursuits and active social lives. Perhaps you feel that their teen is ready for and happy to have greater freedom and autonomy. If anything, teens need more involvement from their parents at this critical time NOT less.
I can honestly tell you that after more than 25 years counseling children and teens, what kids most want (but won’t tell you) is for their parents to offer strong guidance, be open and empathic in listening to what they think and feel, expect responsible behavior (AKA accountability) from them, provide encouragement and praise when it is due, and instill confidence that you (the parent) will always be there for them. All of these actions from parents provide a secure foundation for children and adolescents to experience growing pains, learn by making mistakes, and develop into responsible, caring, confident, and successful adults.
My hope is that parents will seek individual or family therapy to address their concerns about parenting their child(ren)early, when problems are small. Think of utilizing my services as adding a resourceful, experienced expert to your “team.” Believe me, it is so much easier and quicker to improve and build your skills as a parent when you address and change them at the first signs of difficulty. Even if the problems have been going on awhile, I am here to direct a path and provide ongoing support each step of the way. One of my strengths is being able to inform parents about the complex , in a manner that is non-judgmental and easy to understand. More importantly, I provide direct recommendations on what to do about it! I am a compassionate, down to earth, practical therapist. Call me today and let’s talk!